Saturday, July 31, 2010

The Nature of Duplcity 03 01 2007

Found this old one and thought some might like it.

The Nature of Duplicity
“Is it human nature to hate ourselves and project that outwards?”  3/1/2007
From a young age I started to question what I said and did and the ideology that governed these.  What was at interest? What interest was being served by my actions and how hard it was to do things a different way when I tried?
For example how peoples self expression is stifled by completely proper grammar and how sometimes there thinking should be along the lines of more proper grammar.  Along these lines why my written work was better than my verbal expressions.  How emotions govern true self expression.  How what you feel prevents you from saying what you think.
And how what a person say’s will with experience always reveal how they feel no matter how they try and mask their face through what they say.
Look at how they look as they say.  Do the two seem consistent to you?  When are they “Open” with what they are saying?  When do they look very open with what they are saying yet sound very “Closed”?
What do you feel when you see and hear them near you?
What do you feel as you see and hear them talk?
Will a supposed enemy give you the right advice to only take delight in watching you not follow it?
And the next time give you poor advice in the hopes that you will have thought that the last time they actually did give you the right advice and that therefore their nature is completely trustworthy.  Only to follow this second change up advice to ruin.
Very few people will look you in the eye during the complete conversation.  Knowing the appropriate time to look a person directly in the eye during a conversation will tell you of the truth of what they are saying to you and whether their self interest is being more considered than yours which may actually be the case.
When it comes to your own realization that they are wrong and or told a lie to you and you try and look them in the eye at that very moment and they won’t or just vice versa they tell a lie and try and look you in the eye to gauge your response.  These clues will tell you whether they are the shifty sort or not.
After much experience with this or a certain person you don’t need to look them in the eye at all.  All you have to do is listen and look at them at the appropriate time for your own personal amusement or grief.
Some people think that by watching you do a task they have learned exactly how to do something as you did it only to try it for them and fail.  They think because they have seen you do it they knew how to do it and thus need not to.  Only by successful doing what you do, do you and or them know they have learned from seeing.
Why is it you can show and tell someone to do something and even give them detailed written instructions and they still can’t figure it out?  Is it because they love their own ways rather than those that would work?  Is it because they feel they have to “OWN” their understanding.  Loving your own ways that are not successful is a form of hatred.  Either of yourself or others.
Sometimes we hate ourselves for not saying what we believe, resent ourselves for not acting as we believed or feel others do not like you and therefore you should not follow their advice.
A.    You were given wrong advice.
B.     Somehow you could never follow good advice because you could not recognize it as being better than your own invalid beliefs.

When you have been successful whose advice did you take? 
Did you feel best when you have successful outcomes based on your own thinking or others or when you are able to synthesize both?

Do you feel best when you have a successful outcome when doing the opposite of what your are told by someone you think is either an è
a.     Idiot/fool
b.     Lire
c.      Friend
d.     Very smart person
e.     ?

What have you thought of all they express?
What were the outcomes of experiences with the previous types listed above?

Idea for a book è Of a young learner who has the experiences with those five characters and what does he learn from each?

When is someone a fool or just acting like one so you can learn how not to be a fool?  You can always learn from either!
Sometimes you know one is not a fool but acting like one to teach.  What are you deciding you are learning from the “fool’?

What do you feel of the term life is just a circus and we are merely players?

What do you think of the clown who rides the unicycle, the dancing bear, and the trained elephant?
When you see the man walk the tightrope do you think you could only do that it if you devoted a whole lifetime to it?

What does the clown know of what he does -  -  - if not all?
Does the clown ever make a true mistake?
Look at how the clown’s eyes are painted sad as you watch him err?  Is it human nature to watch people err and laugh at them as they do?  Is this a good form of learning to laugh at others mistakes and how do you feel when others laugh at your mistakes?  Do you always feel they are laughing at you or with you? Are you meant to be the clown or just have the sad face of one who errs?

Which is better to be the audience prepared to laugh, the clown or the person with the sad face who resembles the clown?

Does what you tell yourself make you better or worse?

How far will a person get if they unyielding only walk a straight line in one direction?---It cannot be done!

How do feel as people try more and more to prove an opinion to you that is contrary to yours?  Who is bearing the “Burden of Proof.”   Do you often find yourself where is the lie in their longer proof?  Do you feel it should be the world’s burden of proof to prove you wrong or does it then become your task to prove yourself write to others, or just yourself?  Does only a fool argue with a fool or DO TWO FOOLS ARGUING BECOME LESS FOOLS EACH?
If you know they are wrong do you feel it is your burden to prove them right?  Is it best to believe in yourself and leave them with their own beliefs or lies?  Or do you believe they may be arguing with you to learn from you.  It is probably for the good of humanity if at the very least subtly state your opinion and try and convey you’re reasoning thereof if you can get a word in edgewise.

When you are doing a task well and you see others are envious what happens next?  How should you really feel when you SEE envy?  How should you feel when you hear envy?  Do you accurately recognize envy when you hear it or see it?

How do others react when you recognize their envy?  Do you feel they are usually mean or counterproductive to you because they know what you have realized is indeed their own form in some way of self loathing?  And then do you see a pattern where they don’t want you to reinforce what you know of them and their envy  as self loathing and what it say’s of them.  Do you find that for some reason they try and distract, divert you in some way or change the subject, and this results in you not remembering their envy?  Do you feel that people do not you to recognize their envy as a sign of your greater accomplishment?  Do your accomplishments then become greater or worse as a result of this process?  Are you made better or worse or are they made better or worse, should anyone feel the either of the former?  Does the term know thyself fit accurately here?

What would you think of a speaker from afar that you never formally met who comes to you and say’s, “I don’t like you and you don’t like me?” is it worth arguing about?  When someone says something to you with an expression of harmful intent do you just react with hatred back to them or do you try and think that maybe you can learn something from what they said in a wise way to better yourself? =è This is always worth a try!

One last thought, “Have there been times in the past where the person has acted and meant well for you to that result?”  If you able to follow their wrong thinking to lead you to your own right conclusion THEY HAVE INDEED HELPED YOU.

Thomas Paul Murphy 

Copyright 03 02 2007 Thomas Paul Murphy

Friday, July 30, 2010

On Problem Solving 03 09 2010

On Problem Solving

Make your thoughts stand the test of reason. When they fail the test of reason you should start thinking better thoughts that stand the test of reason.

Do not be afraid to think of different ways to solve problems and don’t be afraid to laugh at the absurd and ridiculous thoughts that are unworkably foreign. Sometimes it is indeed helpful to make a joke out of the absurd to serve an annotation in the future of what not to do. Analyzing different outcome in this matter is the nature of development. Reflection upon events that actually transpire with regard to directions chosen is the basis of genius.

Build a ladder work of strong premises that do not sway from the immature intrusion of sick and uneducated minds. Listen but do not be led astray by foundations that rest on faulty premises or do not achieve hierarchical goals. This is a basis as you compare foundations of projects as to design, cost savings, and strength. But also with regards to all constructs of reason, judgment and philosophy, etc.

One of the main obstacles in teaching and in constructive politics in this country is, “A question that implies a false premise instead.”

Make sure foundations are built on a strong base or premises, that meet all standard project goals and more, otherwise you have built a “castle of sugar cubes.”

God Bless Those Who Think For Themselves

Thomas Paul Murphy

Copyright 2010 Thomas Paul Murphy

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Responsible Parenting and Maturation (another Socratic essay) 07 10 2010

Responsible Parenting and Maturation (another Socratic essay) 07 10 2010

Part I “Where the hell did she come from!”

“Would one man change the world slowly and destroy it to feed and maintain a negative self image his wife has of herself?” How far will men go to maintain a wife’s delusion of self? Are men there men that are this insecure? Yes. And are they married to women who never would listen in order to learn? Is happiness in a woman always defined by comparison? Comparison of herself to other women? Is that indeed the true nature of a gatherer?

Part II “Responsible Parenting”

Why aren’t they raised to take pride in little steps of accomplishment? They were never taught patience? Patience is taught by using the word and the meaning of the word “No” and making certain that it has been obeyed.

A child will go to great lengths not to realize the importance of others or respect them. Often when told something they talk right over what they were told. Listening to someone else would defeat their power of ignorance. In effect they deny the significance of others.

Often a child will hear grownups talking and not understand the conversation. Tell the child that people talk about things they know. Things they know are knowledge. People talk about events or happenings. And people talk about people, hopefully they say good things. A young child often feels like they are not part of a group because they do not understand the conversation. This is the time they should be patient as most things adults talk about are not relevant to the world of a child. Children learn over time.

Teaching why we say no requires the patience of intellect and this requires development of intellect in oneself. First you must be what you try and teach.

How do we reinforce the word “no”? A time out period or similar type of period or convention is required. The length of the period set and maintained. But the goal is for you to realize your child has learned, and sincerely realizes why what it did was wrong. Has the child thought enough to form its own memory? Without memory formation there is no learning.

Memories are solidified by asking the question back to the one taught after a certain length of time. (When learning for yourself, do this also.) The time lag should not be longer than the interval you dad come to expect the behavior to be repeated at.

If the undesirable behavior occurs again first the learning process has been subverted.

Understanding requires more than echolalia repeating back to you what was said to them. It requires conceptual formations that support it. And this is indeed the basis for greater learning and intelligence. Positive, constructive, productive thoughts link together forming an often coveted ladder-work of knowledge.

Part III “Guise and Posturing in Parenting”

I don’t want her, you can have her, she’s to “BRAT” for me. Do we do something because it is a good thing to do? Or do we do it to put on a show in public. Is a women more concerned with being well dressed and how she looks rather than having a substance of good nature and therefore self. Can a form of immaturity and disrespect to the teacher actually be considered the best form of flattery to the teacher such person, a black hearted person of envy, is capable of? I have found that whenever someone puts on a show to try and impress in such fashion as is consistent with this paragraph accidents are likely to happen. Such as when parents are disciplining their children in public? Is the desired effect achieved by this or is this more a cry for help and understanding put forth by a frustrated parent? Does humiliation in public have its limitations in terms of effectiveness, if it is to be considered effective at all in some forms? What kind of a public are we trying to create?

Part IV “The UNDESIRABLE Consequences of Her”

And by all means give credit where credit is due as anything else is destructive, for when demand exceeds resources, thievery, famine and plague result.

Was this essay based on the question, “Where the hell did she come from?” Indisputably it was.

God Bless Those Who Think For Themselves

Thomas Paul Murphy

Copyright 2010 Thomas Paul Murphy

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Two Siblings in One

Two Siblings in One 07 07 2010

Is there genetic testing to see if a child or person was born of a brother and sisters who were of same parents?

Can a child who is an inbred be termed “Two Siblings in One”? For the convention of this essay I will posture as such. As two siblings in one is such a human being in constant internal struggle with him/herself?

Would a two siblings in one person project this internal struggle outwards? Would this behavior be unfair towards others in its peer group? If children were secretly raised to be inbreeds, or two siblings in one, would they pose an unfair advantage to other society members as they externalize their internal struggles with little regard for others? How can a person who is two siblings in one have a discreet conscious? If a person does not have a discreet conscious, can they be reliable, can you trust them? Can they reach agreements internally as to what is right from wrong?

If such a preposterous construct were ever the case and a child was adopted, would we ever know? Is there a way we could test for this?

Some of us don’t need a test to tell and see when the head of the hydra is near. Some of us can feel the approach of a Medusa, look and then see her. Over time, the creeping eeriness of “Something wicked this way comes” does lesson a little.

Two fighting siblings in one! Is it highly likely that a two siblings in one child is more disturbed? Is one of these siblings always trying to get out or escape only to be in effect “sent back” or pulled back because like a tether made of rubber there is only one place for it to end up? Unless the tether breaks. What would a person as two siblings in one have to do in order to break the rubber tether? What does a two sibling in one person break all throughout their live in their drive to do this?

When a brother and sister are uglier than wet rabid dogs are they more likely to be incestuous?

I am not saying anything bad about hyperactive or attention deficit children, just wondering where they come from. Why are they this way?

I often pose questions through the Socratic Method of teaching to myself, in order to set a basis or framework of premises for understanding. A framework of solid premises is the basis of true intelligence and responsibility. Sometimes I indeed know a premise is true even though I will never be able to prove it, and therefore I set old Socrates to get working for me. I invite you to do the same, but I will not afford you the luxury that you assume your premises are true, only I can do this, because I thought of it first and have carved the decree into a tablet of stone right here and now.

The pressure inside the head of an inbred, from those two siblings fighting must terribly afflict them or cause suffering in them. A suffering they often project outward unto the world.

I remember a person I admire telling me the meanest and most sickening thing he ever saw was a group of boys fill a glass jar full with live garden snakes, put its lid on tight and boil it in water. Then watch them squirm around frantically before they die. If the scene I described does not sicken you as it did me when I heard it what does that say about you. Jesus Christ could see when Satan entered a person. If you feel you identify with the one who closed the lid on the jar, pray that he leaves you. If you identify with the snakes in the jar is it because of their suffering and struggle or because they are snakes like you that should not be placed in a jar and boiled to death. Now I could go on and on by thinking of different ways you might identify with the emotion you felt as you read the story, but what was your reaction? It sickened me that someone would enjoy watching something struggle and die like this. I can only rationalize that they feel someone treats them in this fashion in life or that they are just plain evil. There is more hope for humanity if the former is true. Because if the former is true people can make a positive difference in our world to see that it is better or attempt create a framework for a better future for us. Frameworks once built are always subject to sabotage and neglect, disrespect and intentional abuse by those who do not feel they fit in with the framework. The challenge for humanity is that it must always accommodate for those new to the world so that the frameworks can be reinforced or new frameworks built take into account change. And my analogy comes from people dropping heavy dumbbells at the gym and not one of building more and more prisons that are safer and more captive as some have professed. To the contrary a framework of society that needs less prison is what we should strive for. This framework would have to be based on equality, respect and fairness.

I have come to realize that those who like to slight me hate to be watched by me.

Quantum physics teaches us the observer and the observed are one. Can observing then be said to be either disturbing or augmenting. Is the direction or outcome of observance based on intent? It is often more of a surprise to the observer. And if somebody does not like to be observed because it disturbs them, I respect that and do not observe them.

Seeing someone observing or peeking at you often is a form of enlightenment.

God Bless Those Who Are Enlightened

Thomas Paul Murphy

Copyright 2010 Thomas Paul Murphy

The Painful Childbirth

The Painful Childbirth 07 07 2010

Does the pain of childbirth lead to responsible parenting as opposed to a child that is adopted?

I would have to say, yes. As mothers that have children they gave birth to always take the pain of birthing them into consideration when determining what is in the child’s best interest. When a mother thinks of children are her thoughts linked to the pain of its birth, or the baby’s painful inception in her memory and therefore more her relationship is closer to the child. Can it be said closer relationship to the child or identification with them lead to better upbringing of the child.

For example, would a mother by way of natural childbirth be less protective of her children? Would that lead to greater independence and therefore the development of greater character and integrity than a mother that does not feel as close a relationship or IDENTIFICATION with the child? How does a mother relate to a child she maintains she has a distant responsibility for?

Does a mother that could not have children idolize the ones she adopted? Idolize, meaning spoiling with attention to the point that it sickens the child and those the child then identifies with? Are there some mothers that feel their naturally born children are not indeed their responsibility? It is a form of abuse to deny children are your personal responsibility and accuse someone else for your actions with regard to this that violate the rights of others. It is also a sign that you lack the intelligence or understanding to teach and raise children yourself.

Are women that abuse their bodies through some forms of disrespect for themselves, forms of disrespect such as, but not limited to promiscuity, sometimes unable to have children because of this? What respect would they have for children they then adopt? Do women that are unable to have children or do not identify with their children, externalize the blame and therefore responsibility for them in a generalized or specific psychosis directed at others.

God Bless Those Who Think For Themselves

Thomas Paul Murphy

Copyright 2010 Thomas Paul Murphy

Monday, July 5, 2010

Fathers, Sons, Husbands and Daughters 07 05 2010

Fathers, Sons, Husbands and Daughters 07 05 2010

The teachings in the prose that follows employ the Socratic Method. Socratic Method teaches by asking questions. As you read these questions make a mental note of how you answer them. Sometimes an objection people have to the Socratic Method is that they do not feel they should have to answer questions. But it is the best way for them to confront their own ignorance. Often learning is a matter of drawing small ties to things you know already, in order to reach a larger understanding. Sometimes things we know already are false. Part of learning is the willingness to accept new ideas. This means listening. Listening means accepting that you do not know everything already. Many who cannot learn cannot do so because they cannot listen because it means lessening their ego. And they feel that means not having as great an opinion of themselves. It is that and unknowingly to them a form of disrespect to themselves and others.

What kind of father do you wish that you had? One that teaches you right from wrong? One that would spend time with you and take an interest in you? One that would tell you not to smoke? One that would tell you not to do drugs? One that tells you it is wrong to fixate on someone every waking hour of your life? What do you do if you had a strong father? Would you treat him with respect or try and destroy him? How would you treat a father that was not your natural biological father?

What kind of man do you seek to marry? Like your father or like the father you wish you had? Do you wish that your father did not abuse you? Do you wish your father did not abandon you? Do you accept bad things done to you? Do you accept bad things done to you because you feel you did not have any way to prevent or control them from happening? Does your acceptance of bad things done to you make it alright for you to do bad things to others? As you look at bad things that happened to you how would you seek to prevent bad things of that nature from happening to others? Do you even care? Or are you now the person who does the bad things yourself? Do you know right from wrong? Do you feel good things come from doing wrong and that is your justification to making others suffer? Or are you just jealous and envious and will not admit this to yourself as these are forms of self hatred?

Does your mother or wife have a bad relationship with her father or husband?

How does your father see that you develop as a person? Does he leave that up to someone else? No. Was your father one who was raised in an alternate family structure? Does he now choose to see that you are raised properly? Having been raised poorly does he know what this means?

Does your father leave your development up to anyone that comes along on the street?

What does your father think of you? Does he resent you because you are like him? Does your father truly like himself? If you feel he likes himself, do you think he likes others also? If in this case he does not like others, do you see this as a contradiction to him liking himself?

Is your father jealous or envious of your constructive accomplishments in life? Does he encourage you to take risks in life regarding your own capabilities? If you have risked nothing in life what have you truly learned? If you have risked nothing in life what can you truly teach?

Does your father ever truly praise you, “Nice work son!” Or does your father in effect say, “You stole good for the family today, have a smoke, our way is the only way.”

Does your father see to your safety? For instance does he have you use a chain saw or axe to chop wood or trees and not see that you protect YOUR eyes? Does your father make sure that you are not being abused?

Were you raised not to like women? Were you raised to hate your father and father figures? Do you believe in authority? Do you believe in God in heaven?

Does hatred or distance from your father cause you to seek a man that loves? In other words did your father raise you as a homosexual? If you were raised by a woman do you bear the common sense regarding the physical world that a man does?

Does your father seek to ruin others? Why is this wrong?

Does your father lead you be example? Do you accept your father’s behavior?

Do you recognize when your own father makes a mistake? How does your father own up to mistakes? If he is human, and I say this in slight, does he recognize his mistakes and try and not repeat them? Is it hard for your father to think that he has faults?

Is it too painful for your father to try and raise you? Thinking involves memory. Are your fathers memories too painful and therefore he cannot think? Have you ever seen children that are beat on the head for doing something bad? Does this cause them to associate pain with thinking? Can this reveal this reveal itself later in someone’s life? Does your father need a scapegoat to teach you how to learn? Do you need a scapegoat to learn? Are you your father’s scapegoat? Does your father live to point his finger in judgment of other and yet not have any true abilities of his own? Are you the son of another father that is lead to believe that he has no skills at all by someone as just described? You may have more skills and abilities than you ever imagined by comparison.

Is your father jealous of good work? What do you see that your father is envious of? Do you see his envy as a sign of weakness? People of all ages get snotty when their feelings are hurt. Has someone been snotty to you and you can’t imagine why? Most likely it is from envy and jealousy.

Do you become snotty and mean to other children that have more loving fathers than you do? As an adult are you like the spoiled child that does not let others play with his toys? Do you do this to make others jealous and envious of you in response to your own feelings of self esteem or worth?

Do you feel that your family wealth makes you better than others? Or are you jealous of children whose fathers have less money and yet love their sons and daughters more?

Do you recognize jealousy and envy in yourself? Do you recognize your own snotty reactions? Do you recognize this as a weakness? Do you recognize the behaviors they lead to?

Do your surround yourself with a peer group that has the same bad behavior as you do? Or do you surround yourself with those of the similar nature of envy and jealousy?

Do you know how to change your behavior? Do you know how to resist temptation?

Are you so jealous of the good works of others that you fixate on them in an evil manner? Can you not accept that you are not someone else? Do you know what a delusion is? Do you know how having one is destructive to yourself and others? Do you seek without willful intention to cause delusion in others about their self worth? Do you seek this in a positive sense or a negative sense? Do you seek to profit from a negative self image or delusion you created in another person? Did you give them a negative self image that is quite contrary to what they truly are? Do you enjoy doing this? Do you thrive on this? Your name is Satan.

This one is very important; do you know why delusions of yourself are unhealthy? Do you know when you are lying to yourself? You may have to search through the pains of your life to figure this one out.

How do you choose friends? Do you seek friends with better capabilities or abilities than you? Do you like to be at par with friends? Do you like to un-thoughtfully nick pick at friends? For example not try and think about why they make decisions the way they do but instead impose false idealisms on them.

Do you recognize when friends are detrimental to your development? Do your friends truly respect you? If they made you a criminal or conduct criminal behavior would you recognize it even then?

Are you a criminal that has not been caught? Do you know what crime is? Were you raised to respect the rights of others? Do you recognize other as having rights? Do you just see others as tools to further your life’s evil nature in terms of wealth and power? Do you drain energy from people in this manner? Is your true life’s religion one of witchcraft and demonic possession? If so do you seek to make someone need to use a psychiatrist as you seek to facilitate and maintain your delusion of self?

Why do you choose the work or profession that you do? Is it for status? Do your really do the work you have the title for doing in terms of the benefit to society that the job or profession represents? Did you just chose to be something because it is what your mother told you to be, and therefore you go to all costs to be that person even though you are detrimental to our society in doing so? Who in society are you trying to fool? Be honest with yourself when choosing a profession. The aptitude tests they give you in high school are pretty accurate. Do not try and stand in the way of someone that has the true aptitude that you do not. Do not destroy people of true talent and then feel that because you did so you now possess that true talent, you don’t, and you never will.

When you have done bad things what was your father’s response? Do you respect your father? Upon reflection due you respect your father or others for the times you were disciplined? Can you think of any time that you should have been disciplined that you were not?

Did your father try and prevent you from growing up to be a criminal? Do you respect the rights of others?

Was your father jealous of other fathers and snotty to them? Does your father recognize his own faults? Does your father his own limitations? Is your father like his father? Do you want to be like your father or someone else? Why? Would not you be better off by trying to be like your father but in a better way, in other words, think of some good there is in him and also think of the good you see in others as you age, try and be like that. And if you cannot think about one good thing about your father so be it!

What can you say about yourself as you think about your own behavior?

As an adult do you not feel comfortable in the presence of children because you were abused by an adult when you were a child? Or are there other adults, they might have been abused by an adult when they were a child, and they try and instill these feelings in you? Do you often see adults and think that they were bad children and are also bad adults and would not trust them with your children? Are you insightful with your analysis or superficial regarding the integrity and character of people?

As an adult are you complacent with those that abuse others and children? Do you as an adult seek to abuse children or adults, or adults just starting out and look for jobs and careers in society where you can do so with little fear of being caught or punishment?

Here is one of that most people are never aware of but is very significant and it is the true nature of Satan; do you as an adult seek that children abuse adults?

Did you grow up not to view people as equals? Do you not feel that all men and women are created equal under God?

It always amazes and then sickens me when I find out that people and friends I had as a boy feel that all men are not created equal. The reason they feel this way is because they are unable to learn and change. I have come to the position via rethinking that they were not raised responsibly. They were raised as scapegoat children. Children their parents had as a byproduct of life. That they were children raised on scapegoats. And children raised on scapegoats are indeed scapegoats themselves. I want you to try hard and think why this is true.

People that feel that all men are not created equal have so many faults and limitations that they think, self serving to their egos, there is no way someone, read scapegoat, could be so smart. In reality these people cannot confront their painful memories that prevent them from thinking for themselves. Memory is the basis of true learning. This also prevents them from truly believing in themselves. To form your own memories and learn from them as you think about them in life is a sign of great intelligence. Start by revisiting the memories you have. If they are not positive what constructive things can you learn from them? Let them form a basis for new life’s adventures and learning. As you go through life keep a list of the positive accomplishments and complements you have achieved and let them form bases for new life’s activities, instead of just rocking away in the chair gaining weight. Do not let impressions others have made unto you, through jealousy, stay with you through the years. I have explained these people already.

Always think in terms of what you truly love to do if you feel it was not your fault you were not successful at it, even though you are doing something else. If you have been tested fairly and are not good and what you would truly love to do, respect those that do it well, and find something else you love to do. Sometimes aspects of what your truly love to do are skills that are present or needed in many types of functions in society. You may find out some day that you fit the definition of a Polymath, or someone that is a professional at many things. I am going to be a little self serving with this next comment, Artists are our true Polymaths.

In reality people often cannot confront painful memories that prevent them from thinking for themselves. This also prevents them from truly thinking for themselves or believing in themselves. The reason for this being, they were put in a position of harm’s way or abuse of some form and are indeed not able to confront their abuser or rationalize there was nothing they could have done otherwise. Here is where guilt is a painful memory that prevents them from thinking for themselves. Should we feel guilty? I would argue that if we did not feel guilty for our actions we would not be human but something lesser. Are there things we feel guilt or shame for that we should not, because there was no way at the time we could have known to control the situation better? As you think of these latter events it might help to try and figure out how to truly prevent this from happening in the future or at least think of ways to support those who are going through or have gone through it.

If you do not believe in yourself are you destructive of others in return? Is not the biggest loser excuse you could ever think of in your life, “All men are not created equal?” Do you belong in this country if you feel or promote the construct that, “All men are not created equally?” Who else among you, besides your self do you feel does not have potential? Why do you project your negative self and the way you were raised on others? Why do you look down on those with more talent than you that might be working for you? It is in fact you saying to yourself, I was not born as good, so I should never strive to be better. The psychological term for this is learned helplessness. How did you learn helplessness? Were you raised via a scapegoat and therefore will never possess true leadership or sense of self.

What does your behavior say to others? What example of leadership do you set for others as you feel you are not created equal? This spells out the word loser to me.

If you think someone was created better than equal as compared to you, do you seek to victimize them?

Are you a man of the past, a boy that lives on the baseball field? Or a man strong for the future?

Do you revel in a childhood past you are comfortable with and not think of yourself in the present or future? Do you feel like life is over for you? What do you feel this way? Did your father or mother teach you to feel this way? Are you indeed looking at the lid of a coffin?

How has your father or mother truly helped you in life? Contrast this to how you feel your father and mother has helped you in life.

Who would you like to be and why? Remember from a prior article of mine you should never truly seek to be one person, because you might develop you didn’t know were coming. But instead ask yourself, what are the aspects of that person that I admire and how can I be like those aspects or character traits in my life? This type of analysis allows you to recognize change. If you know what is changing in yourself and why, you will understand yourself better. Go ahead examine your life. Do not be afraid.

Do you feel those raised to follow make good leaders? How do and should followers seek to be of independent thought from leaders? By ruining the leader, the one who feels he is not created equal thinks! Do not try and break that mold, or father figure, you might need that mold you seek to break in the future and later in life. Smile. I knew a terrible person like this, his motto in life was, “Anyone can be broken”. Do these words repulse you as they do me? He was a Republican. The way a follower truly becomes a leader is to think for himself, as I described in other parts of this article. Thinking for yourself involves trying to answer questions you yourself have thought of asking. Just because you think of a question to ask does not mean you should ask it, think how you would answer it first and then see if it is in the process of being answered. (This was covered in my essay, “How to ask a good question” published in one of my blogs under my index)

A word about changing your mind. Most men were taught to never change their minds when they were boys. This is easy way out thinking. Evaluating all inputs to the decision process leads to the best decisions, plans, implementations and procedures. Do not be afraid to rethink things and change your mind.

Are you taught to never question your father?

Do you feel that your father loves you? Why?

Do you feel that your father hates you? Why?

Are you taught to never question your mother?

Thinking might be painful for some of you probably got a good swat to the head for trying this. Now changing your world that would require truly independent thinking

What kind of person are you anyway? A mindless skull full of pain?

I am fortunate that I can say most of the good things I have written in this essay are indeed my father. God Bless Him, a retired teacher and my mother who was also a teacher.

Thomas Paul Murphy

Copyright 2010 Thomas Paul Murphy